Over the last few years I’ve come to believe that life is all about balancing. Trying to find balance between all the aspects of your life. Work, play, friends, relationships, family, projects, health. You don’t want to devote yourself so much to your job that you have no time to pursue your hobbies. You don’t want to be so wrapped up in your significant other that you forget about your friends. You don’t want to be so focused on your children that you neglect to take time for yourself. You need to find the balance.
The catch-22 with this scenario is I think it’s nearly impossible to have balance with all aspects of your life at the same time. This is a very rare feat. To feel completely satisfied with your career. To spend quality time with your friends. To feel connected with your partner. To have enough free time for your favorite hobby. To feel healthy and whole inside your body. To be all those things at once is uncommon and precious.
I think of finding balance in life like a pendulum swinging back and forth. For just an instant the pendulum is right in the middle; everything in balance. But quickly the pendulum starts to swing to one side. Maybe it’s because you are unhappy with your job. Your focus is directed toward the stress you feel about your career and the pendulum is swinging to the far left. After some time (maybe short, maybe long) the pendulum starts to swing back toward the middle. Things at work have started to get better. Things are feeling more in balance. You hit the middle of the pendulum again before it starts swinging back to the right. This time you are so engrossed with your new boyfriend your friends have fallen to the wayside. You are extremely happy with your new beau, but things are still out of balance. Friends call with no answer. Weeks go by. The pendulum is at the far right. This goes on for awhile before swinging back to center.
And so is life.
If it is so hard to find balance, if balance is so fleeting, why even strive for it? I think the answer to this is because the more we strive to find balance in our lives, the less the pendulum swings. When your goal is to find balance the less the pendulum swings drastically to the left or right. Perhaps the pendulum only deviates from the middle only slightly. With care, dedication, and mindfulness, I think we can find balance in our lives more often and feel less askew when the balance is off.
How do you go about finding balance in your life? Do you agree that complete balances seems fleeting?