I’ve had a recent epiphany: you have to take care of yourself. Seems kind of silly, duh I need to take care of myself, I want to keep on living. But taking care of yourself goes beyond just eating food, sleeping, and going to work.
In order to truly take care of yourself you need to dig deep. You need to examine your life and your habits. It’s not just about eating food, but eating the right food. What is going to make you feel good? What is going to make you feel energized? What is going to make you feel like the best version of yourself? These questions can and should be applied to nearly everything in your life. How about your relationship with your significant other. Does it make you feel good, energized, and like the best version of yourself? No? Then it’s time to make a change. What about your job, does that make you feel good, energized, and the best version of yourself? No, then changes need to happen.
It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day routine, we lose sight of the big picture. We forget to take a moment to pause and check in with ourselves. We slowly get worn down and before you know it you’re running on empty and just a shadow of the person you would like to be.
The biggest part of the “take care of yourself” epiphany is this: no one else is going to do it for you. Game changer! Seriously, no one else in this world is going to take care of you if you don’t take care of you. Of course you have loving friends and family that help out when they can. They can encourage and try to lift you up when you need a boost. But when it comes to everyday life, no one can be there with you 24/7. No one can be there to hold your hand every step of the way. They are not going to make sure you wake up at 6am to get in that morning workout. They are not going to grocery shop for you and make you healthy meals. They are not going to stop you from having those last 2 glasses of wine (and you will have a hangover the next day because of it). They are not going to break up with your toxic significant other for you. They are not going to rid you of your negative self talk and your anxiety. No other person can take care of you like you can take care of you!
That is a very powerful realization my friends. Because for so long I put my emphasis on the outside world. When I have a boyfriend I’ll feel better about myself. When I’m thin I’ll feel better. When I have more friends. When I have a better job. But by making all my goals external I was missing the big point. And it’s so clear it’s almost funny that I was missing it. I wanted to feel better about myself. But I was trying to do that by looking for external acceptance and rewards.
What I realize now is that in order to feel better about myself, I simply need to take care of myself! I have to put my needs first. I need to be in tune with my body and my mind to steer my life in the direction I want. Because at the end of the day when I’m laying in bed alone just with my own thoughts I am the only thing that matters. In order to be the best version of myself for my friends and family I need to be the best version of myself, period.
So take care of yourself my friends. You will thank yourself so much for it later.